in the spirit of the holidays

this time of year has me thinking about
how i live my life,
and how i choose to interact with people.

growing up in a christian family,
i was taught by my mother
(a very wise woman)
that the golden rule is the most important thing.
i remember her saying to us when we were little
"do unto others as you would like others to do to you"
and although it's not a statement that i always obeyed
(i definitely wouldn't want to be bullied
the way i bullied my brothers
 at times in my younger years)
it is a statement that stuck with me.

now that i'm older,
i find that one of the most important things to me
when i'm interacting with people
whether they are family, friends, or just acquaintances,
is to accept them for who they are.
because i think one of the worst things in life
is when you are persecuted by others
just for being you.

i believe that we, as humans,
are supposed to love and support one another
and let God do the judging
when it's time for that.
by judging others and condemning the lifestyles of other people,
we aren't helping anyone or making our world a better place...

it's really just another way of bullying people.

even if i don't agree with the way someone lives their life,
what gives me the right to tell them that my choices
are better than their choices?

whether it's choosing to...

attend or not attend post-secondary education
live with or not live with a partner before (or instead of) getting married
become a doctor or become a musician
have a relationship with a same-sex or opposite-sex partner

...they are your choices and i believe you have the right to live your life
the way that you feel is best for you
and to do what makes you feel truly happy and fulfilled.
so i try my best to love everyone for who they are
and be accepting of the life choices of others,
because i know that when my time is up
i don't want
"condemnation of others"
to be something that i'm judged for.


  1. Anonymous22/12/09

    you bring the answer to the question. if we all thought like you. have a sweet day hun.


  2. I love this post. I definitely agree and thanks for sharing. :)

  3. that is so true.
    i always have to remind myself of that though.. it's so hard not to get swept up in the judgements and expecations of society, but if you can stand your own and respect those around you regardless of their choices and/or lifestyles, then its a beautiful and rare thing!
    p.s. love that photo! its so happy! :)

  4. Anonymous22/12/09

    What a lovely post, if only the whole world could read it!

    Thanks for sharing.

  5. I agree completely! Only God has the right to judge us.

  6. So I guess I can't judge you for having been a bully of a sister during your childhood! I had three of them myself. Kids! =)

    I agree with you completely.

  7. This was a very astute post. Thank you for wisdom yourself!



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